Why do mothers and adult daughters fight?

Because both the mother and daughter feel unseen and unheard, an either-or dynamic occurs. In other words, because moms and daughters feel like their emotional needs aren’t being met, they’re determined to fight for the attention and support they need — even if it’s at the other’s expense.

Why is the mother daughter relationship so difficult?

The mother may try to make the daughter feel guilty for being different and may consistently try to change her. This can lead the daughter to feel that they are often disappointing their mother and often trying to please without success. This can lead to arguments, resentment and overall an unhealthy relationship.

Why do mothers always fight with their daughters?

There’s no place for all of that. They got used to not being heard. So when their needs and feelings are neither heard nor honoured by the rest of the family, let alone society, mothers tend to fight with their daughters over who gets to be heard and whose needs get to be met. That’s another main reason why mothers and daughters fight.

Is the mother-daughter relationship difficult to understand?

In the first insight, I show that the mother-daughter relationship is not difficult to understand once we realize that mothers and daughters do not relate in a cultural vacuum. In recognizing that mothers and daughters relate within a sociocultural and multigenerational environment, the dynamics between them become easier to grasp.

Why don’t mothers and daughters get along?

Another common reason mothers and daughters give to explain why they are not getting along is their differing or similar personality traits. I have never found hormones or personality traits to be the core reasons for mother-daughter relationship conflict, however. Rather, I have concluded that society sets mothers and daughters up for conflict.

Is change a problem or an opportunity for moms and daughters?

For some mothers and daughters, change is embraced as a challenge. They incorporate the increased opportunities, choices and freedoms women are winning into their lives and relationship as they grow and change together. But for other mothers and daughters change feels like a problem.